30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself in 2012

Yes, yes, yes. I am guilty of most of these things (full article here), here are the ones that pertain to me the most 🙂

3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.     

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.    

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.       

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

Happy New Year internet friends!!

Today is Today!

My uncle, cousin, mother, and just about every member of my family welcomed me at the airport in Cote d’Ivoire on Tuesday and my uncle yells out in his best english TODAY IS TODAY!! when he sees me walk out of the gate.


Yes, welcome to Abidjan, where everyone speaks french and those who attempt to speak english put together the most out of place phrases.

Ways I knew I was in Africa:

1. It was hot as hell

2. One of my suitcases was ripped in the back indicating some negros working at the baggage claim stole some shit, I’m still trying to figure out what I’m missing though :/

3. The customs officer was ‘reading’ my passport upside down and kept asking me if I had already worn the clothes in my suitcase

4. You had to show proof of yellow fever immunizations to leave the airport, if you didn’t have it, no worries some sketchy African man in a white lab coat would administer the shot for you

5. Military officers stopping you at the side of the road to check your luggage, and not letting you leave until you give them money for their inconvenience

6. Customs officers did thorough and very slow inspections of my electronics while making super awkward eye contact with me indicating that they liked my laptop, iphone, camera, and kindle

7. Most airport employees wear no type of uniform, im guessing they just show up to work

Being back in Africa is honestly the most intense experience and the feeling never gets dull. I’m seriously blessed to be here with my family and friends and slow wireless. It’s amazing, there is no place I would ever want to be.

Anywho, I’m going to pack for a day trip tomorrow, I’m spending Christmas at the beach 🙂

Merry Christmas SUCKAS!!!! and Kwanzaa or whatever. I don’t discriminate

My last day of work was yesterday! OMG I can’t believe I am moving in 4 days! It hasn’t hit me yet, I still have a final and paper to prepare for the day BEFORE my departure. Yea, because that was a good idea.

Anywho, I have worked at my position for almost two years! I have become so attached to these people, I actually love them. Its crazy.

They had a little going away party yesterday, and there were laughs and tears because I am always so damn emotional.

Everyone is asking me if I am going to keep thrifting after I move to Africa. Uhhh yea, I’m always gonna be broke and on a budget. But I was worried at the availability of good thrift stores in South Africa, I thought thrifting was more of a Western phenomenon. I never really thought to look up if Cape Town has any thrift stores (not Vintage but real Goodwill like thrift stores).

And they dooooo! OMG, there is even a Salvation Army in the city. Wells, it looks like I will be thrifting per usual, at least now I will have cool things to post on this blog. My random musings I’m sure could begin to get old for you all.


I forgot to post these photos from one of the many new thrift stores that have opened in Paris in the last two years. Literally, these store are popping up in the hip areas all over Paris! When I lived there in 2008, there were like 2 in the Marais neighborhood, now I counted about 7!

It’s super cool to go vintage, and the stores are profiting big time. Of course this made me think of Ciara and I’s aspirations to open a thrift store, we both have kind of let that go because our lives have led us down different paths. I think it is still something we could be very successful doing, but hey when you make plans God laughs apparentley so we will see what the future holds.

Having my own chic boutique is something I’ll still pray for though 🙂

A close friend/classmate of mine just had a great “Champagne and Cupcakes” house warming party for her new FABULOUS townhouse in DC. Ok seriously, WTF, this house was spectacular!! And she messed up and invited her relator, so anyone who knows me, knows for a fact that I was wrapping ole girl up with questions about home ownership, credit scores, and down payments! I just loved the idea of returning from Cape Town to a home, a dog, and a new and improved adult life.

It made me think (even more intensely than usual) about my own future and what the heck I want for my life. I’m moving to Africa in 10 days for half of a year. I will be back and needing to rebuild my whole situation, plant some roots, gain some much needed stability and create my own little corner in this world. Do I want to stay in DC? NYC? East Coast? No…not really. Of course I love Europe but finding a job there would be impossible. I feel displaced all the time, maybe my time away from this daily grind will help me make these decisions.

SIGH. Once again I am sucked into this deep cycle of self reflection. To be continued internet friends…

Chay B and I went to a “dive bar” this Friday night in Adams Morgan. It was dirty but the drinks were cheap and it all went uphill from there!